HOW TO INCREASE YOUR SELF-ESTEEM

Hi ladies,
I am glad you are beginning to enjoy a more feminine lifestyle. It is usually not the norm for me to get  personal on this blog, it is necessary today because of the importance of the topic am about to unveil to our femininity.
One of the things I have noticed about women is the fact that we love to keep it simple and may be say words like don't worry, nothing, am fine or never mind,no don't bother,I can go on listing the usual things we say to cover up for the things we really should say but we  bottle them up within us and sometimes these things goes a long way making us depressed or unhappy.I don't want to be myopic about this discussion, honestly it is as complex as our nature so what am going to do is talk about the very obvious I have noticed and maybe talk from personal experience. So here is the thing, lets talk about self esteem,  how it affects our femininity and see factors that affect our esteem as individual and collectively as females.

what is self esteem?

We all have a mental picture of who we are, how we look, what
we're good at, and what our weaknesses might be. We develop this
picture over time, starting when we're very young. The term self-
image is used to refer to a person's mental picture of himself or
herself. A lot of our self-image is based on interactions we have
with other people and our life experiences. This mental picture (our
self-image) contributes to our self-esteem
you might want to ask

why self esteem attracts  this much attention?

 1. Self esteem is quite important because it is about your self image and about your femininity, Let me digg this further,it is about the way you make people perceive you as a lady, most ladies feel guys dont stick around them for long i can bet often times it is because they could not perceive your good  self esteem, this is so powerful because it works like magic, the way you see yourself will determine the way people sees you. If you were to be the guy would you love you if you know all you feel about yourself?
 People with healthy self-esteem are able to feel good about themselves, appreciate their own worth, and take pride in their abilities, skills, and accomplishments. People with low self-esteem may feel as if no one will like them or accept them or that they can't do well in anything.
We all experience problems with self-esteem at certain times in our lives — especially during our teens when we're figuring out who we are and where we fit in the world. The good news is that, because
everyone's self-image changes over time, self-esteem is not fixed for life. So if you feel that your self-esteem isn't all it could be, you
can improve it and that is the good news.

Let's take a look at Two factors that may affect Our self esteem.

1.Our Immediate Environment: The people we were surrounded with while growing  up plays  significant role in forming our self esteem. For instance if you were brought up by parents who critized or found faults easily in you,then you are likely to have a low self esteem than someone whose parent praised and displayed affection.
Research has it that promiscuous women are likely to have a low self image and also higher percentage of such women does not have a cordial relationship with there parents especially father while growing up.

2. Inner voices:Another factor for low self esteem is the voices we listen to from within reminding us of our past failures how we are not a likeable persons.echoe of words we have heard people say to us, like I hate you! You disgust me!,you are too fat!

 Hey! what is wrong with being fat? That is not so much of a problem in Africa though, African men says a fat woman reveals her husband's wealth,that is the richer you are as a man the fatter your wife.That is not true and its by the way. I do not subscribe to a careless lifestyle but after you have done all you need to do to slim down and you could not reduce your size then you need to build up some good self esteem in that line and make people who tries to make you feel bad about your looks end  up accepting you.Or even from our experiences maybe you are a single mom at teen age

or was raped or molested and you feel you have a lot to hide when people come close to find out they ain't going to love you anymore  you go on avoiding people, you can't even talk to people because of the shame of all there is about you.
At this point am passionate because I was a victim of some sort and am going to give you practical steps.

1. First of all allow yourself to be healed of whatever hurt it is from the past and don't live in unforgiveness.God healed me of my past so I recommend you talk to Him.

2. Identify few reasons why you feel your self image is poor.You can listen to that negative voice one last time just to identify the things that has shaped your self image

3.You need to move in the opposite direction of those words.I subscribe you write out some positive words about yourself and say then to yourself in the mirror every time.e.g I am likeable,I have a sweet personality, am beautiful etc.Because your words tend to stick more than what you heard others say.

4.Self acceptance: in cases of low esteem based on your experiences,now is the time to trully believe there is no big deal.don't hide anymore, try to tell one or two people about your ugly past and make sure you move on, this might be a little bit difficult but trust me it leads to  a major break through, when someone confronts you with your past receive it with excitement they are gonna feel suprises but play on and watch them accept you the way you have accepted your past.

5. Take every opportunity to do the things you have never done before, like public speaking or maybe you feel left out approach those ladies you have always tremble within you when you see them for all I know they might not be better than you are,maybe their walls isn't as thick as you think. Learn to be bold maintaining eye contact.

6.Keep doing it don't stop till you own it.Consistency and being deliberate will break you free from low self esteem.

So you see my dear life is what you get from it!.Use this message as it applies to you.I really appreciate your time please do share this article by clicking share on Facebook and also click on the RSS for update.Till next time we post  ... keep being ontop of your games.

SIMPLE WAYS TO BE HAPPY

1.Cultivate the habit of giving thanks: it helps you see the good going on in your life and even see the bad from a good perspective.

2.Take every chances of newess: make sure something changes continually around you and you do things differently, having a boring lifestyle can make you depressed.so go for vacation,site seeing, shopping ,do what makes you happy, for me i could just go for dance class at my leisure.

3.Have the right company: dont be isolated, relate with people, make friends, communicate!.Don't also forget to avoid the "kill joy".

4.dream: spend quality time to dream about your future, see the bright side look beyond your present dark failing or unfulfilling situation and see yourself coming out of it stronger and better.

5.Be kind to people: in as much as you shouldn't neglect yourself helping people you should also know that certain fulfilment comes from putting smiles on other peoples faces and dedication to humanity brings great joy.

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FEELING BLUE? IT COULD BE DEPRESSION.

WHAT IS DEPRESSION?

Everyone occasionally feels blue or sad, but these feelings are

usually fleeting and pass within a couple of days. When a woman

has a depressive disorder, it interferes with daily life and normal

functioning, and causes pain for both the woman with the disorder

and those who care about her. Depression is a common but serious

illness, and most who have it need treatment to get better.

Depression affects both men and women, but more women than

men are likely to be diagnosed with depression in any given year.

Efforts to explain this difference are ongoing, as researchers explore

certain factors (biological, social, etc.) that are unique to women.

Many women with a depressive illness never seek treatment. But

the vast majority, even those with the most severe depression, can

get better with treatment.

Are you a woman that feels like you might be experiencing a mid-life

crisis? Have your typical monthly issues become a typical and

out of whack? Hormones and depression are so very closely

related, and they are two ticking time bombs. If not stopped,

they will cause a massive explosion in your emotions, mind,

and even your body. Some people become very ill or even

seriously diseased, and don't know why .

Depression may occur at

any age during a woman's life with certain events like puberty,

pregnancy, perimenopause, trauma, substance abuse and quality of

relationships increasing the risk, according to the leading authorities

on the etiologies and treatments for depression.

Furthermore, depression can occur among women from all

educational, economic and racial and ethnic groups and it consequences can include an increased risk of suicide, morbidity

from medical illness and risk for poor self-care and reduced

adherence to medical regimes. World Health Organization Report

examining "The Global Burden of Disease" found that "depression

presents the greatest disease burden for women when compared

with other diseases."

Some of the findings that examine the possible culprits of

depression are:

Genetic Factors: Based on data that major depression clusters in

families, having a first-degree relative with depression (parent,

sibling) is a risk factor for depression. 

Sex Hormones: The link between increased rates of depression

and puberty, mood and the menstrual cycle as well as mood and

pregnancy suggests a role of gonadal hormones in depression.Specifically, changes in gonadal hormones, disturbances in the

hypothalamic-pituitary-gonadal (HPG) axis and attendant effects on

neuromodulators (e.g. serotonin) may all be key mechanisms in the

initiation of depression. For example, pregnancy and delivery

produce dramatic changes in estrogen and progesterone levels, as

well as changes in the HPG axis, that may underlie postpartum

depression.

Life Stress and Trauma: Case-control and community-based

studies have shown that more than 80 percent of major depression

cases were preceded by a serious adverse life event. Traumatic

events, such as childhood sexual abuse, adult sexual assault, male

partner violence and physical illness also can lead to depression.

Initial research has suggested that early trauma has a greater

impact on risk for depression than later occurring trauma. Research

has also indicated that women may be more likely than men to

experience depression in response to a stressful event.

Interpersonal Relationships and Cognitive Styles: One cognitive

style more common in women than men that increases the risk for

depression is ruminative thinking - repetitively and passively

focusing on symptoms of distress and their possible causes and

consequences. Ruminative thinking is also associated with longer

and more severe episodes of depression.

Possible signs and symptoms are as follows:

Irritability

Apathy

Abnormal Sleep Patterns

Fatigue

Indecisiveness

Suicidal Thoughts

When treating hormonal depression , it is also important to go

beyond normal testing and basic research. You must make

sure you address every possibility. Don't get so busy that you

forget to take care of yourself. If you are constantly helping

others to the point of self-destruction, then you are

neglecting yourself. You must assess and respond to all of the

following areas:

Physical

Spiritual

Emotional. 

  Of course there are lots of medication for depression especially the use of antidepressants,But i suggest you try out some other natural treatment because of antidepressants side effect which includes headaches,nausea, loss of appetite, low sex active and so on. Here are some
Helpful tip to get over depression

* watching your diet and avoid certain food that you may have noticed to wreak havoc on your body.

*exercising your body is a very effective way to shake off fatigue both physically and in the mind.it raises endorphins, which are natural pain endorphins.and can heal your hormonal inbalance.

*eat chocolates:hormones can play a part in your depression,

and if your body has the proper balance of these hormones,

you will not have problems in different areas that they have

control over. Estrogen hormone boosts serotonin, just like chocolate does. That is why chocolate can lift depression off of you. It also helps to promote sound sleep. It also raises endorphins just like exercise does, which are natural pain relievers.

*Talking to a counselor or a therapist:Is a better and easy way to get things off your mind.You do not have to go through your dark times alone,get good people to share your burdens with, share experiences that could help you get through life easily. Cortisol is the stress hormone. If you allow yourself to have too much stress by not getting things off of your mind , then your body will automatically release more cortisol,which will cause unwanted weight gain. 

Always remember that every area

of our bodies is interconnected, and you must pay attention to

every area in order to be complete.

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